Why the Need to Hate Someone Different?

I have never been the most tolerant of people, often quick to anger, insult and generally be a bit of a prick! But never (to the best of my memory apart from the one part with Dave, see below) because someone is different, whether it be a different religion (they all take my ire and respect equally), different race (I don’t care what colour you are, lets chat and have a laugh), your sexuality (I really couldn’t give a shit if you have just had sex with Steve, Dave or if Lisa is sleeping with Kerry) are you trans /vestite/gender (granted I will be curious, what made you realise etc), are you a hermaphrodite?
Differences are what make us sane, make us stand out from the crowd (just remember you are unique, just like everybody else). If it were not for our differences then everybody would be the same and that would be incredibly boring.
I will start with my comment regarding religion (the ire and respect one), I am not religious in any shape form or way. I would like to think there is some kind of afterlife, because my dad still owes me a tenner and it would be nice to eventually get it back (with interest), but I do not believe in an almighty or even collection of Almighty’s sat upstairs watching us and preparing to judge us on our arrival. I like learning about religions because I feel that although I do not believe in the dogma, the overall fundamentals of religion do preach peace and love and set the basis for a decent moral code to live by.
I do think some religions got it wrong
Christianity – Jesus and God
Islam – Mohammed and Allah
Buddhism – More a philosophy than a religion

Hinduism – Brahma the creator, Vishnu the protector, Shiva the destroyer, Ganesha the remover of obstacles,

Sikhism – Again more philosophy
Asatru/Odinism (Norse) – Odin, Thor, Frigg, Freya, Loki, Hel (guess where she rules lol)

Now in my books for diversity the Norse and the Hindus are meeting hammer and nail every time, Hindus get bonus points for the amount of colour they throw around (in some ceremonies quite literally) they celebrate in a way that no other religion really does. Most religion is so dour and boring, if you believe that desperately and fervently that you have this great omnipotent creator in the sky that created the world in 6 days before having a siesta on the 7th, then celebrate that fact don’t bloody mourn it. Although if the bible is to be believed we have had the zombie apocalypse and it wasnt quite that apocalyptic, Jesus raised from the dead?? One man does not make an apocalypse, disappointing!
Now as long as you take out the whole creationism ideal as there is incontrovertible proof that the world is a lot older than Christianity would lead us to believe then religion gets it right, “Do unto others” etc etc. However it is also damning of those that are different,

“Exodus 20:2-6 “I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery. “You shall have no other gods before me. “You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing steadfast love to thousands of those who love me and keep my commandments.”

So not only does it provide no wiggle room for the potential for other gods to give him a hand, it seeks to punish those who don’t believe and not just punish you but your grand children and great grand children!! Bastard! For the most part the people I know use religion as a way of life, a set of ideals of which to live by and that is great as I have already said for the most part religions get this right. But they seem to be at odds with themselves, for example

Mark 12:31 states “The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”

Deuteronomy 13:1-18 states “If a prophet or a dreamer of dreams arises among you and gives you a sign or a wonder, and the sign or wonder that he tells you comes to pass, and if he says, ‘Let us go after other gods,’ which you have not known, ‘and let us serve them,’ you shall not listen to the words of that prophet or that dreamer of dreams. For the Lord your God is testing you, to know whether you love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul. You shall walk after the Lord your God and fear him and keep his commandments and obey his voice, and you shall serve him and hold fast to him. But that prophet or that dreamer of dreams shall be put to death, because he has taught rebellion against the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt and redeemed you out of the house of slavery, to make you leave the way in which the Lord your God commanded you to walk. So you shall purge the evil from your midst. … “

So you can love your neighbour, but you should put to death someone who worships a different invisible man to you??

I just don’t get this, it makes no sense!

Well that covers the religion part of this exercise (and please remember I am a heathen non believer so I quite possible have oversimplified things! I do however welcome conversation)
So onto the next socially pointless argument for disliking someone!

Race, this boils down to the age-old tribal warfare when someone or a group of someones coming into your country used to be quite an aggressive act (it usually involved a fair bit of rape and pillaging!) These days (as a general rule) immigration is a lot more civil. Yes there are gangs of immigrants that beat people to within an inch of their lives, but we have our own gangs that do that (more on this later in the sports section!)
Lets break this down into the most simplified terms and see just how stupid it sounds

“I dont like you (even though you haven’t done me any harm) because you’re not from round here!”

It’s quite frankly ridiculous, I have lost friends and people I know over the years in places like Afghanistan and Iraq (part of the price serving in the military brings), I don’t blame all Afghanis or all Iraqis for what has happened. I blame the “INDIVIDUAL” not the entire race, it is not a difficult concept. I mean ffs there are people who are still alive now (most of them under the age of 40 that “still” (lol) hold a grudge against Germany and the Germans for what happened in WW2.

It makes me question how they were raised, to have so much hate and to be this angry for no reason isn’t healthy. These people to be fair are usually the same sort of people who march with groups like Britain First and the English Defence League screaming about how all (insert hate target flavour of the month) should get out! These people fail to see that the majority of people they are screaming at to “get out of our country” were born here themselves. Britain First are currently the crown champions of hypocrisy. Due to one terrible incident (well in fact it was many incidents over a period of time – The grooming and raping of girls in Rotherham) their chant of choice “Muslim Paedos off our streets!” is made to seem even more hypocritical when you find out that one of their Regional Commanding Officers (loving the pseudo military titles) is actually a convicted paedophile, but don’t worry he is white and English so it doesn’t count!
What makes me laugh though is that they are constantly complaining about immigrants whilst trying to recruit British immigrants overseas (there so-called Ex-Pat division lol).

I will revisit the subject of hate groups like Britain First, but for now onto

Sport, why is a game taken so seriously that it can and has literally broken down into full-blown riots all because one team didn’t win? I like sport when it is played between two teams that love the game and are playing their hearts out, what I can’t stand is when the fans take it so seriously. I understand passion and excitement during the game and after it, but is there any need for the animosity, abuse and all the other crap? Sportsman like conduct apparently only applies to those playing the game? I have been to numerous Ice Hockey games (unfortunately not well followed in the UK) where both lots of fans have had a drink together after the game and light-hearted banter is as heated as it gets. I have been to exactly two football games in my 33yrs of being alive, one when I was about 8 and I was cold, it was raining and I had nowhere to sit (standing only at the time) so we left early, the second time I was about 17 and despite my team winning I could not wait to get out of the stadium and get away from there, there was an atmosphere so thick you could cut it with a knife (and you would probably break the blade!) Later saw on the news that there were 6 arrests and 4 people in the hospital. To top it off certain football teams have “firms” whose sole responsibility is to beat the crap out of the opposing teams fans, why? It serves no purpose, is the result of a football game that important that risking arrest and a criminal conviction is worth it?

The final entry in this blog is probably the one I feel the strongest about as all of the others consist of differences that are historically tribal with race, learned values from religion or a modern form of warfare with sport. This last one is simply nobody else’s business.

SEX and Sexual Preference– Heads out of the gutters you lot, there will be no bodice ripping or cod piece bulging in this blog, not on my watch!!

So to begin, I am a straight, white male. I am married with two kids, two cats and a dog, I enjoy shopping (weird right?), baking, playing on my Xbox or doing DIY (badly). I admit at times being a chauvinist believe that you women are fragile creatures in need of protection, then I get grief off one of you for it and I come to the realisation that I am at heart a feminist. I believe in equality, I do not (one more time) DO NOT believe that women cannot do something just because they are female. I have a daughter and I am trying to teach her that if she wants to do something she shouldn’t listen to those that tell her she can’t because she’s a girl. I hold doors open for women, not because I believe they are incapable (I have been accused of this before!), but because I am polite. I will hold doors open for men too.
I have male and female friends who just happen to be gay, I have no trans-gender ones that I know about (they would be subject to the same strict regime of sarcasm and banter that all my friends share lol) it isn’t their sexuality that makes them my friends. Adam and Eve are welcome at my house for a BBQ just as much as Adam and Steve, as long as they chip in for the beer then everything will remain chilled lol

I wasn’t always this way and I can remember when it all clicked into place. About 12 years ago, I was lucky enough to be surrounded by a wonderfully divers group of people, there were straight people, a few lesbians (woohoo phwoar, don’t forget I was younger, stupider and hornier at this point), there were a couple of greedy (bi) girls and just one gay bloke! Now despite not officially coming out, everyone knew he was gay and (as much as I dislike myself now for the idiot I used to be) subconsciously I treated him differently for it. Jump to a week night just before the London Pride festival, and we are all in the bar chatting, the girls are sharing their plans to go down to London to enjoy the festivities, the gay guy (I will call him Dave for this piece), Dave downs the rest of his pint in one, stands up and says he has an announcement, he got his bravery up and came out of the closet there and then as he was planning to go to pride himself and he wanted to join in and chat (not his only reason for coming out, but he confided in me at a later date that it was the beginning of his public and open gayness and one of the hardest things he had ever done). It came as no surprise to us that he was gay, however the surprise for me was that everybody seemed to instantly accept it, which made me thing about all the things I had heard growing up about “shirtlifters, faggots and puffs” and about how little I really knew. That Friday Dave and the girls disappeared of for a weekend of debauchery (trust me I have heard the stories lol) in the capital and I worried about my friend. Not my “Gay” friend, but my friend who just happened to be gay, which made me think even more as the bouncy, confident girls didn’t enter my mind at all, yet my shy, slightly naive, freshly out of the closet friend did! Fast forward to Monday night and once again we were all in the bar (what can I say the military drink, a lot!) the girls were telling us about the weekend and we were laughing at their successes and failures from the weekend. The only person not sharing was Dave, so I asked him how his weekend was “I met someone!” was the hushed response, the whole table went silent and I swear you couldn’t have focused more attention on one person if you had tried. “And?” I asked.
The words literally ran out of his mouth, “He’s gorgeous, muscles, beautiful blue eyes and my god he knows how to use his mouth……..” realising what he had said Dave blushed bright red we all laughed and congratulated him. I was genuinely happy for my friend and I looked around the table and noticed that not everyone was as genuine as me, smiles seemed to be forced from some people. Whereas minutes ago they were hanging on the words of a gay female listening to her describe (in vivid detail) what she had gotten up to in a disabled toilet, a similar story from a gay man scared them. I did the only thing someone like me (who had only recently come to terms with “Gay” as a normal thing) could do, I asked for details and then raised my glass to my friend.
I have no problems these days talking to anybody regarding sex regardless of gender or preference. Granted I still avoid porn with willy’s as I just can’t compete with them (god damn special effects and tricks of the camera). I figure that if a gay man or woman wants to talk about their conquests from the weekend in the same way that a straight person does, then why shouldn’t they? Do they have to be silent whilst listening to everybody else or do the people around them have to change and either listen to their stories or just not share their own?
I watched a program recently called Sense8 and it pretty much covers everything I have written today, now many reviewers and commenters complained about the sex scenes, 1. because of the gay men and 2. because 1 of the lesbians just happened to be male. The biggest issue with this (from my point of view) is that if the overall story was made up of 1000 parts then these sex scenes made up just 5 parts of the whole, but because it happens early on in the series people switched off, this makes no sense to me. I challenge anybody to watch it all and then sum up the entire series based purely on the sex scenes.

Well I figure this rant has taken enough of your time, hopefully you either agree with the things I write about here or I have challenged you enough to think about how you treat others. As usual, comments are there for a reason, I will answer any questions posed.



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